The girl was 15, going on 16. She was known as the town tramp as well. He was passed out cold at her mothers house as he was friends with her mother, when the teen came home at 3am. My fiance was on all kinds of pills, and passed out from them, had no idea the girl was coming home as she was supposed to spending the night at a friends house.

The mom called police because he wouldnt have sex with the mom, and accused him of sex with the girl.

He went to prison for 6 years.

Now completely free, he has moved to another state, has registered, and has no place to live. He is having to live with his mother as we can’t afford to buy our own house.

This happened 10 years ago when he was 25, so now what happens? When he is 60, people aren’t going to read when this happened, just how old he is in the picture and her age and he will look like some big freakin pervert.

Also, the state it happened in has her age right, but the state he is registered in has her age as 14. And at the time of the offense she was pregnant with a 43 year old mans baby, and he didn’t even get into trouble for it either. Cuz he had money…..

My fiance just wants to get on with his life. We just want to live. He is so tired of just wanting to hide from everyone. Ashamed, scared, and nervous people will hurt him. He is not a predator, or a child molester, but the stereotype is there. Murderers can get help with finding a place to live, but he can’t.

I was the one that wouldn’t let go, pass out flyers, make calls; even call the media even want to spray paint the front of their house (which I never did but I wanted it to happen).. I was happy to hear one fellow who committed suicide after flyers were dispursed..

Now I am ASHAMED and am willing to work with whom ever to try to rectify this problem in the law.

He was jailed in TX and was looking at 40 years. They finally reached and “agreement” (he just wanted to get out of jail and away from other sex offenders) and his life is permanently an irrevocably destroyed.

What he did was wrong, but this designation needs to be addressed; too many young “guys” are being caught up in that designation when they should be charged with something else.

Suffice to say, he learned his lesson, and has matured a lot from the adversity he experienced, but now he has the added horror of being a registered sex offender.

They should have a predator registry; and possibly another registry where an individual drops off of after a period of supervision to determine if the acts were predatory in nature and if not, the person has a hope for some kind of future in the work and social world.

This particular individual is great with kids, has no dependency problems, loves people and everyone who knows him loves him. You can’t help but love the guy. He was just too trusting of this girl and was too “stupid” to ask her how old she was; she didn’t bother to tell him either.

I myself have to register as a sex offender. My case is very similar to this, a lot of people ask “where are the parents in all of this,” in my case i was 19 she was 14, I met her at my place of business, her mother would always talk about her daughters pubic hair and breast to me with her daughter present. She would tell me to move with her to some state to “marry her daughter” i always laughed jokingly.

I was invited by her mother to go to her birthday dinner at the hard rock cafe, it was that that the mother said that what her daughter really wanted for her birthday was a kiss from me. Me being ignorant of the extreme of the laws thought it was safe and innocent enough. At the mothers approval i dated her daughter for some time. Then the day came when there was supposed to be an outing to an amusement park, the whole family was suppose to go. When i arrived at their house, i was told that plans had been canceled and i was to take her daughter by ourselves.

I did later on after the park we watched a move at my house where i received oral copulation, (take in mind i have never have and never will force anyone to do anything the don’t want to do) at the time i thought it was Illegal to have sex with a girl under 18 i wasn’t aware that included oral sex as well as that kiss i gave her on her birthday.

After that it didn’t seem right so i ignored the situation and distanced myself from that family, i should of seeked help but i didn’t know how and i was never taught the facts of society.

After a year went by i had a new girlfriend and we happend to run into the girl. there was not exchanged words at that time but a week later i was arrested.

During my court dates i was given a public defender, what 20 year old could afford a lawyer? this was the first time i ever went to court, i was scared, didn’t know anything of how court goes. My public defender was not interested in fighting for me, he just wanted to get the case done as fast as possible. He built up a plea bargen like it was my only option. If i took it to trial i would of won.

Yeah you have a 50-50 chance on beating it and probably spending a great deal of time in prison, but the main fact here is that a trial is based on the decision of every day people like the ones posted on this forum a plea bargin is giving your life to the unpresent mercy of the court, and you see where that leads.

That was about ten years ago, i don’t condone my actions as a teenager and i payed for my mistake. Just recently a Neighbor found out and spread fliers around my neighborhood not know any facts or coming to me and asking me about it, after that they boycotted my work and my boss lost money and had to let me go. I’m honest with people about my registration.

My boss shouldn’t have suffered because of what happend to me. My employers are very giving and decent people to the community, and they saw the decency and good in me.

I know who i am, i don’t approve of my actions as a kid but i will learn from them.

I AM NOT A RAPIST.
I AM NOT A PEDIFILE.
I AM NOT A PREDITOR.
I AM NOT A SEX OFFENDER.

I really do prey for the people giving in fear to the media and for the people with closed minds.

I am happy for you Virgil keep forgiveness in your heart for the people who don’t understand. Put the past behind you, live each day like its the best day of your life, and you will have a glorious life.

At issue here was the fact that the guy was nineteen and the girl was FOURTEEN. Now, I’ll agree that the years apart might be minimal, but the emotional development and rate of maturity between those YOUNG years can make a huge difference.

I think a pardon for this man is the right thing to do given their particular situation.

Historically, before the Industrial Revolution, the concept of “childhood” was non-existent. Children were thought of as property, were put to work on the farms, in the fields and in the early factories. It was not uncommon for young girls of twelve and thirteen to be “farmed off” to much older men in marriage in an effort to either reduce the mouths that needed feeding (one less in the family to worry over), or to extend the family by marrying off a girl-child into a more financially stable family (ensuring help for their own).

After children spent years working in factories, ten and twelve hour days as virtual slave labor, a consciousness began to develop in opposition to this practice due to the high rates of deaths, injury and disease among factory children. It was at this time that society created the concept of “childhood” which included the education, nurturing and protection of children. Protecting children further included minimum age requirements for sexual consent and marriage, among other things.

Had it not been for the Industrial Revolution and the use of child labor, there probably would not have been child protection laws and minimum age of consent laws.

Advancing technology always compels society to address social change.

But its clear this law is being either misapplied or the enforcement is totally out of control. When someone marries someone like this, it should automatically mean they are innocent. THey shouldnt have to spend a million bucks to defend themselves and leave their fate in the hands of politicians. Thats not right.

The question is what kind of justice is served by continuing to punish a family that is hurting no one? Justice is for people, not the other way around.

My grandmother was incarcerated for being pregnant at the age of 15 without a husband and was forced to give up my mother for adoption. Was this a crime? no. was it Immoral? based on the standards of morality at the time, Yes.

Was this couple’s behavior criminal on either part? no, as it was not destructive, senseless or unjust. Was it unlawful? Yes, as the law of the land indicated it as so, however unjust or incorrect as the law may be. It was Immoral based on the standards of the time.

We need to stop trying to legislate morality. We need to make our laws clear and distinct. Laws must not criminalize normal behavior.

Let common sense prevail over hysteria.

Congratulations to the couple for hanging in there together, may they have many more years together.

http://www.hrw.org/en/reports/2007/09/11/no-easy-answers-0

Most Americans want to do the right thing but are simply misinformed. Legislators, both state and federal, have made a big mess with these laws but aren’t motivated (and too fearful) to take the time to make things right. Shouldn’t surprise anyone considering what’s going on in Washington right now. An informed public is the only answer.